Muddling Through The Mess: Divorce and The Holidays
Divorce is difficult any time of the year but can be especially difficult around the holidays.
Fears of being alone during the holidays and spoiling holiday memories loom overhead. Divorce brings about a whole host of emotions from stress, anger, anxiety, to sadness; coupled with the emotional realization that holidays will likely look very different from now on, it’s no wonder many persons hold off on the process until after the holidays.
When we think of the holidays we often think of joy, happiness, and giving – especially for children. Because of this, January for quite sometime has traditionally speaking been the most ‘popular’ month for persons to begin the divorce process. Well meaning parents try to give their marriage one last honest effort thus choosing to hold off on divorce proceedings until after the festivities have come and gone.
However, should you find yourself going through a divorce this holiday season it’s important to remember that while the legal and personal process of divorce can be daunting – divorce does not define who you are as a person or where you are going in the future.
Corriveau Law has helped numerous clients navigate their way through divorce proceedings during the holidays. This holiday season; keep these few things in mind while trying to muddle through the rough times:
Divorce and the Holidays
1) It’s a fact; divorce and property division will affect your financial situation. It’s ok, to have to make some financial cutbacks this year should you find yourself facing divorce. In the spirit of giving: small and heartfelt is just as meaningful.
2) Get involved within the community. Volunteer for a charity, read a good book, or find a friend to walk with. Physical activity and other enriching activities can surely help fill those empty spaces.
3) No parent bashing. Are there children involved? Try and be as understanding as possible. Remember this is a big life change for them as well. Avoid bad-mouthing the other parent in their tiny presence. Quality time spent with both parents will help them feel secure, loved, and less anxious. Remember all eyes are on you – your actions, words, and behaviors are setting the example for their future.
While, there certainly are some seasonal noteworthy ‘divorce’ trends the reality is, there are countless reasons people decide to file for divorce each year. There is never going to be a ‘good’ time and for many it’s amongst the hardest of life decisions one may ever have to make.
If you are considering a divorce or simply need to speak with someone regarding any further questions you may have Corriveau Law would be happy to help you during this difficult time.
Hiring a lawyer that is experienced, trustworthy, and competent in such matters can provide a huge stress relief for you. Whether you are just starting to think about divorce, or have already made the decision to precede with the process let us help you muddle through the rough patches thus bringing you joy, peace, and happiness to an otherwise dark, and stress filled life event.
Disclosure: All cases are driven by the facts unique to each case as they apply to the law at the time, and the persuasive argument of an attorney. The information we at Corriveau Law provide is meant only as a broad overview, and not to be relied on without speaking with a legal representative